Heart to Vulva
(Wet or Dry) Place one hand on her heart space between her breasts and place the other hand on her pubic mound. Hold this position for several breaths, using this time to feel in your body, to notice her breathing, and to let her feel the heart genital connection and for you and her to feel the connection between the two of you through your touch and presence.
(Wet or Dry) With a relaxed hand, place the fingers over the vulva, with the heel of your hand resting on the mons and your fingers pointing down toward the table. Apply pressure to the vulva with your fingers. Pay attention to your partner’s breathing to see if more or less pressure is best. Find the “resilient edge of resistance” ~ the “just right” pressure, not too much that is a “doing / fixing” pressure or too little pressure that is tentative. Use enough pressure to let your partner know that you are here and that she is being held by your presence and your touch.
(Wet or Dry) With your hand in the same position for Being Held, vibrate your hand. Play with pressure and tempo variations. Variation: Place hand in the same location on her vulva, with your heel close to the table and your fingertips pointing the other direction.
Caresses of Breath
(Wet or Dry) Using the fingers of each hand, spread her labia and use your breath to caress her sensitive tissues. Breath that is blown from a mouth slightly opened as if whistling will produce a cool breeze. Breath that is blown from a mouth opened wider will produce a warm breeze. Play with each one and watch her body’s response to see which she likes best.
Hands on Heaven
(Wet or Dry) Vigorously rub the palms of your hands together until a lot of heat is generated and your hands are feeling almost hot. Place your hands, palm down, so that each hand is resting above one of her ovaries. Rest your hands there and watch her breathing. A big deep breath can be an indicator of deep relaxation and release. Even if a woman is in menopause or has had her ovaries removed, energetically, the ovaries remain.
Pressing on Heaven
Place the heel of your hand just above her pubic bone and press slowly and deeply, using a slight clockwise circular motion, massaging the womb within. If a woman is in her bleeding time, use less pressure. Even if a woman has had her uterus removed, her womb is present energetically.
Pubic Hair Tug and Touch
Gently pull the pubic hair on her mons and vulva. You can even experiment with pulling the hair around her anus if there is any there.
Grasp individual hairs or clusters of hair.
Place your fingers between the hairs and gently squeeze your fingers together as you slide your fingers through her hair till you reach the tips. Take your fingers right off the hairs or give a little tug.
Use your fingertips or the palm of your hand to touch the tips of the hair or sweep your fingers through without grasping.