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How to Make Lust Last: 13 Ways to Keep Married Sex Hot and Sizzling

Be open to a quicky in the laundry room.
Incorporate sex toys into your sex life.
Make having sex a priority. Decide together the preferred frequency for each of you.
Confide in each other your fantasies and sex “bucket list”.
Read everything you can find about married sex, sex for singles, sex lives, and swingers. (Trash magazines, online blogs, sex advice websites.) Share!
Look around your home for “bondage on a budget” resources. Look for laundry clothes-pins, sashes, makeup brushes, pipe cleaners, belts. (Anything that brings texture sensations to your bedroom.)
Schedule date nights that always end in sex or skin-on-skin cuddling.
Be a yes in life; be a yes in the bedroom, kitchen, hot tub, drive-in, back yard and garage.
Have your husband choose a sexy outfit and wear it on your next date night under your outfit.
Text each other some naughty text messages to create anticipation.
Throw out all of your stained, holey pajamas and invest in NEW bedroom clothes to bring in new energy to your boudoir.
Set a timer and make-out with each other for five minutes before you touch each other’s hot zones.
Pretend you do not know anything about your partner. Have him show you and tell you what he enjoys.

Keep The Passion Alive In Your Marriage

Sitting down over a relaxed dinner or a nice drive can be the perfect time to acknowledge to each other that the longer you are together, the more difficult it is for each of you to keep the creativity flowing in your bedroom. That’s ok. That is the human condition. The difference is that you two are committed to keeping the passion alive. This will be like back in the old days when you first met!

You Know the Importance of Sex in a Marriage

When you have quality time face to face, you can talk about some of these 13 Ideas for Spicing Up Your Married Sex Life. Print these out and check them off as you try each one. Make a rating system and highlight the tips you REALLY want to try again. Find out which ideas your partner loved most and be sure to keep track of those, too. Eventually, add some new items of your own to the list and remember to have fun. Sex is fun and funny. Giggling sometimes comes with the territory. Keep a playful attitude and your married sex hot!

Sexy and Kinky Tips for Married Couples

We have so many more tips we are excited to share with you via our video course.

If you are married and are empty-nesters and are ready to reclaim your sex life now that the kids are all moved out you will love our Art of Bondassage course. Or, maybe you have been through an illness or menopause and your sex life can use some C.P.R. It happens in all relationships and there is no shame in asking your partner to help you with improving your sex life.

Do you want to stay together for many more years? Do you want to stay married, but need some professional help? A fabulous sensual massage can be orgasmic and when you both learn our techniques in our course, it will bring you both bliss. Think of it as an investment in your orgasms and well being.

We Would Love To Teach You How To Be Kinky

When you buy our course, you will learn to take turns being in the power position. If you are normally a more dominant lover, learn how to let go of the control to your lover and enjoy receiving a sensual massage. Learn more about impact play and edging. Let us teach you some techniques for nipple play that will bring you to the brink.

Whether you’re a novice or an experienced player, we’re delighted to be your guide on a journey of submission, exploration, and pleasure.

If you feel like our $97 course may be a little slow for you, we do also have an Advanced Bondassage Course for $395 . You can even pay for our $395 Advance Bondassage Course in 3 payments, too. Be sure to sign up for our HOT SEX TIPS newsletter here so we can keep your sex life smoking hot. (Read our blog about our Couples Kink Coaching here.)

Kinky Tips & Techniques For Married Couples Learning To Be Kinky

If you have married or in a long term relationship and want to keep your sex life healthy in marriage, we do offer private coaching. Our private coaching is in person, and working with Jaeleen gives you the confidence and freedom to explore new techniques, new erogenous zones, and delicious new areas of sensory pleasure.

Our founder, Jaeleen, offers private coaching. “I’m a sensual domina, professional bodyworker, and the creator of Bondassage® and Elysium by Bondassage®. I’ve had the honor of introducing people around the world to the fascinating world of kink. Introducing couples to the art of Bondassage has increased their passion, deepened their connection, and spiced up their intimate playtime. I’d love to help you too!”

More about Jaeleen: I am a Certified Massage Therapist, Professional Domina, Reiki Master, Urban Tantrika, and Sensual Shaman with more than 25 years of experience. I have extensive training in several healing modalities, including Amma, Swedish, acupressure, shiatsu, deep tissue, sports massage, Reiki, rebirthing, polarity, trigger, and active release, Thai, Tantra, and Taoist Massage, Shamanic journeying, aromatherapy, and esoteric energy healing.

Email Jaeleen at jaeleen@bondassage.com to introduce yourself to her and that will get your conversation going.

5 Massage Techniques That Will Lead to Better and Hotter Sex

The setting for your erotic massage for your lover is going to be instrumental in helping your partner relax and enjoy themselves. We have some tips to make your space very sexy and relaxing, and we have some insider techniques that will drive them wild.

A clean, quiet space in your home or hotel room with a comfortable (warm) room temperature and very relaxing lighting is key. (Go easy on the candles, fragrances, incense, and other things that can cause irritation or headaches.) Clear a large space on your bed or massage table and make sure you have it all prepped so when they walk in the room, they can switch their brain off and realize you have set up this lovely and sexy “gift” for them.
Edible or organic massage oil that you know you both love will make things very tactile and lustful. This massage is going to be very slow and intentional. A long lasting massage oil like organic virgin coconut oil is a fabulous option. And, if you have lots of time to prepare, warm up the oil a bit under the warm water faucet. They will appreciate the attention to detail.
Blindfolds make all the difference. (You can even treat them by having them wear earbuds or headphones, too.) The “mindfold blindfold” is a favorite of ours. It completely blocks out light, even with eyes open, and won’t smudge eye makeup. Excellent for play, sleep, and travel! While they are blindfolded, you can also experiment with using your breath on their erogenous zones along with your hands.
Tease out your erotic massage! This massage is going to highlight the genitals and erogenous zones, but try to tease them. Get super duper close to them, but try to stay away from the “hot” zones as long as you can to make your lover’s climax especially deep and satisfying. You are basically going to try and “edge” them to get them very close to the orgasm than back them off from it once or twice (or dozens of times!).
End the massage with your body on their body. Your massage will most likely start at or near their head and shoulders; you can wind a path down to their toes with your hands. To really amp up the intensity and hedonistic aspect of this sensual massage, make sure your lover has a nice coating of oil all over their body. Now, put your skin on their skin and you can slide around on their body so they feel all of your body parts all over their body while they are still wearing the blindfold. I sometimes call it the “adult slip and slide” technique. It also brings your mouths near each other which gives you the ability for some deep kissing, exploring, and teasing with your tongues. (We all know that married people and people in long term relationships sometimes forget to make out!)

BONUS : Bring a nice and quiet cordless vibrator, a piece of fur, some cool links of chain for some texture and tease play into your massage.

Want to learn even more techniques? If you are both agreeable and you want to try something new, start off with our $97 Art of Bondassage – our online course you can purchase here. Learn in the privacy of your own bedroom.

Or if you are ready for a little more adventure, you can also check out our The Advanced Art of Bondassage for $395 – this is our advanced online course and it includes the $97 Art of Bondassage we mentioned above. (You can even buy it in three payments.) Buy the Advanced Art of Bondassage here.

If your sex life needs some serious Sex C.P.R. – we also offer sex coaching. If the two of you have tried everything and you just cannot seem to get anywhere with improving our sex life, then you might want to consider coming to Northern California to the Santa Cruz area where we can do some sex coaching together.

My coaching is a very personal decision by you both. To make sure we are all on the same page, begin with an email to me and we can discuss if we are good fit for one another. It’s an investment I do not take lightly, so having a discussion first is a great way to make sure that we are a good match. Feel free to email me at jaeleenbondassage@gmail.com to start off this conversation. Be sure to read our blog “Can Kinky Sex Save My Sex Life” and get to know more about my in-person kinky coaching and more about me.

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Keep Your Marriage Hot | 13 Tips For Hot Married Sex